You cannot fully grow without relationships of some kind. When you are in a relationship, you cannot hide from yourself. Things will come up that you did not even know were there. That’s the gift of all types of relationships, not just the romantic ones. Even if you meet your ideal partner, the emotional wounds you carry will still come to the surface. It’s how you negotiate your way through these times that determines the success or failure of the relationship. Of course, you could isolate yourself, and then you wouldn’t be triggered by anyone, but you would never know yourself fully.As you gain awareness, you will have less need to defend or protect yourself. You will no longer view people as hurting you but as giving you a gift that helps you to experience the hurt that is already within you so that you can heal it. Other people act as a mirror to show you what’s inside. They simply trigger what’s already there. Some people will trigger parts that you like, while others will trigger what you don’t like. That is why you might like yourself better around some people than around others.I can help you to HEAL your unconscious WOUNDS so you can enjoy healthy RELATIONSHIPS

WHEN I TOLD A FRIEND THAT I HADN'T SEEN FOR A FEW YEARS THAT I WAS NOW WORKING ON HELPING PEOPLE TO CREATE EMPOWERED RELATIONSHIPS HE COULDN'T HELP IT BUT TO LAUGH AND SAY "

DON'T YOU HAVE TO BE GOOD AT RELATIONSHIPS TO HELP OTHERS

" AND I GUESS HE HAD A POINT AS ALL THE YEARS HE KNEW ME I WAS IN AND OUT OF VERY UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.

Unfortunately we don't come into this world with a -relationship manual- and my parents didn't model a healthy relationship for me so my starting point was below ZERO.

Because I had no idea on how to be in a relationship that allowed me to be myself I took all my sorrows and transformed them into a way of gaining awareness on how to be in an empowered relationship and creating my own manual. And, I did it! Today I'm in a healthy marriage of 11 years and we have 3 wonderful children. If I did it so can you!

Today I don't believe that you can be in the "wrong" relationship, let me explain, I believe that whoever we attract into our life is a reflection of an aspect of ourselves. There are two types of attraction going on at the same time:

• Conscious attraction: the list of things we want this person to be and the fulfilment of our needs in the relationship.

• Unconscious attraction: these are our wounds and patterns that we need to heal.

My work is devoted to healing that unconscious attraction, the parts of ourselves that we don't love yet. I believe that being in a conscious relationship gives us great opportunities to learn to love ourselves more and go deeper within the beautiful-magnificent people that we are.